speak, to reduce the struggle for 30 years, gave work has been or is about to embark on friends
Although I have been working for two years, and has been very motivated at work, but this article is still very popular with me now, I hope you read carefully, may help you ...
the following ten, please remember to read talking, 30-year struggle to reduce
First, do not stay in the mind that comfort zone can be forgiven.
Everyone has a comfort zone in this area are very self, do not want to be disturbed, do not want to be push, do not want to talk to and unfamiliar faces , want to be accused of not willing to do things in accordance with the prescribed time limit, do not want to take the initiative to care for others, do not want to think about what other people did not expect. This student is very easy to understand, and sometimes even told the students that However the contrary, in work, you must try to change this situation. Otherwise, you will quickly become a cocktail party, the only object that can not be heard, or soon because of pressure and endocrine disorders. However, if you can soon break before the period in which the comfort zone of students, a good deal faster than others, business, interpersonal, public relations, that can quickly come to the fore.
During the meeting, a comfortable area to stay in the mind of the leadership will listen to negative words, passive standby, it is to die by higher things, But never anything other than interested, but do not think one step, so that the next more easy to use someone else's work. Those who dare to break the comfort zone of people, dare at the appropriate time to present their views and do not understand, and get higher recognition and pointing to the work at hand as soon as possible after completion and ready to accept criticism from others and adjustments. (Note: Never wait for others to say what you think, this is typical of the former)
at work, this person met a new colleague, he pretended not to see, to continue their work. Little do they know new colleagues soon became his own boss. While the latter kind and generous self-presentation and understanding of each other and their relationship.
at the party, the former always wait for others to speak and comment on each other's language like privately; if there are no speakers on this table, that until end of the meal, and no one know you. Which is brave and begin with a meal together and chat, this seems difficult, sometimes beneath the face, but often you will find each other and how you want to say a few words.
These are just a few examples of small, but to illustrate that, while students in the campus should go to school at work The
Second, do not start working after ten. Do not
I really hate to hear of the saying: Do not forget to remind him. Similarly, the following words will make people feel disgusted:
; ; ; 'customers will come tomorrow or the day after tomorrow to visit ; ; a broad scope, the second does not give others cause great pressure, be sure to get hold of what seems to get to the bottom like. University of hard to tell the truth then the person inside the half of all mixed. A person either in the classroom is a mixed, or after school is mixed. Two do not mix with people of color, either super cow, or is crazy. So, because everyone in the mix, so the campus is a romantic place, the campus is easy simple. Therefore, the work of student organizations are often inefficient, and I do recall the work of the school was also felt quite hard, but after the work began to feel what is efficiency. When you enter a time where monetary terms, you want to avoid school as much as possible to cultivate this habit. If the parent can ask when you implement your commitment to him, and you answer (Of course, this answer is often in the school community, students work is common)
a fable, a little mouse just born soon , my mother asked the little mouse mouse: you can now see that? Mouse said: Yes. Rat mother said: you can see that piece of sweet potato it? Mouse said: Yes. Rat mother said: It is a stone, which shows you not only have not see anything, you have not even smell.
plausible answer is often the same as you will expose more weaknesses. May be the following one or several:
1 You did not think this work before, or has been delayed.
2. you do not have a sense of responsibility, that these are not important.
3. you meet the higher level.
4. you can not tell the truth.
5. you like to be brave, can not promise a number of things.
6. you can not work independently.
when your superiors in the above options in doubt, subconsciously you have all of the above also have a weakness.
the contrary, this kind of answer, always make your boss angry.
first, his question was not answered, just to remind you played role.
Second, he still need to remember to remind you, because he did not know whether you really have been put to work.
Third, he does not know how many things you have done in the are not implemented this. (This is a very deadly)
Fourth, often because there is no satisfactory The answer, the boss his plan had to be postponed or delayed or can not give a clear end time.
so ---------
A Q: When will you be able to fix this vulnerability?
B said: I have informed them, they probably will to repair tomorrow. A day later
Q: What maintenance company come back, you find a repair company Which?
B said: if they say no one to arrange, if you can, tonight or tomorrow afternoon will be able to come. A day later
Q: how not fix vulnerability?
B said: I am late and then ask them.
A said: This afternoon is not solved before, do not come to work tomorrow.
Third, do not delay the work
many people like to learn and play in the latter between the first and last time in a one-time rush to assault examination to review things done. But at work, do not develop this habit, because work is never done, and does not allow you Or, when you hover and a loss how to implement, you have the leadership could not stand that he did it. ---- This is a dangerous signal.
often start to finish all the things we always want to think it over radii shoes online, began to take the first step ----- fell down.
example: elementary school, when I first give me a call when the girls like, imagine a variety of situations --- ---- 1, when the phone in her homework. 2, her homework, her mother answered the telephone. 3. She is also very boring, is looking for people to speak. 4. She was reprimanded by their parents. 5. She is like another boy. 6. Her father answer the phone. 7. What her family just to relatives, relatives answered the phone. 8. She answered the phone, but parents around, talking is not convenient. . . . . And so on and so forth. I want a whole afternoon, like a good variety of psychological preparedness and response strategies. Then pick up the phone brave, then pressed a few buttons. Results ------- She was not at home.
So, when you stagnant and know what to do when you realize that you are delaying work. Wandering because of fear of possible consequences of this matter themselves or to meet needs. When the work requires a minimum of self-confidence, believe they have the ability, no matter what the situation is the next step, I can boot to it to which I need to go online. Also, tell myself not to think too much time, if you do not know, they quickly help or try to, distress and anxiety will give you more pressure will be exhausted the rest of the time eating.
In addition, the warning about: Never think, I know, first to send things to put higher bit, so this set of say. ---- 90% of the cases, you will forget, or too late, because this needs to be more than you originally thought of the time. Just do it, has been a very good habit.
Fourth, do not think that theory can be implemented and you're done!
This is too important, and often when people really started to implement a plan will be found fully equal to a pack of lies. If you do not personally practice, sooner or later people will make plans to be implemented in contempt. Always need to enhance their ability to do practical things, not words.
First, if you are doing office work, or do the planning and programs. Please do not put yourself are considered unlikely or difficult to do things, let others give it a try. For example, with an afternoon a few places in the flow of people will be held in open-air singing. This will make people think you performed in the play, he took his experiment. Yes, in theory, in the singing will be held anywhere, but in different places, the implementation of the human mind is not the same.
Second, and implementation of people to discuss your arrangements. For example, new to your subordinates, you arranged for her to sit anywhere, but if it was a very difficult and we touch the corner, this arrangement may be nothing more than your poor. Indeed, in theory, a person to sit down, just need space. But in fact much more than that.
again, do not expect everything will be as you planned. In theory this meeting will last two hours, but this is Students have been accustomed to do things Paper, ppt presentations, exams, school debate competition ... These IQ Competition, are perfect to teach us how to do You have to believe they can
If you are in the school's students, test yourself, whether these conditions can get the following:
; 1 school to produce a uniform, to you to find suppliers, bargain, at least three companies offer.
2. caught a student stealing school security, how to deal with?
3. the school is a very important section of the street is broken, you can let it continue to light up within three days.
4. canteens need to ask a special burn halal food chef, a week to the post.
over when you start thinking about this problem, you will find that his ideas and Next quarter's marketing program You will find the latter as long as you do And as long as the work you want to, will feel a lot of pressure. Because you do not handle, the result is a clear failure of a bigger problem would have occurred.
the way, this feeling is This is the
Fifth, do not let other people wait for you in any
circumstances do not let other people put down the work at hand to wait for you. In a university may be just a few people with bedroom semi-jokingly complained, the work is likely to result in your loss of potential partners.
you are doing a job at the same time to know the progress of others, and never backward.
This is not like the exam, you do than others slow, others can be an assignment, to the time you finish your bear points. At work is this: This is a no one can finish the examination, all of them are assigned to do a different part of the paper, some people assigned to the reading comprehension, and some people do the cloze, grammar and some people do is done ... and then we copy each other, so that all done. If we regard each part done, and you are still in not done, so do the others will soon do you start that part of the subject, and then also copy each other. Slowly, you will find that your workload is entirely possible to replace by another person, the whole team can do without you, this time, no one here to get papers from your answer, and no one will give you their answers - ------- Unfortunately, you have no use value.
sure to remember this example.
Sixth, do not think the details unimportant
At the university, often sloppy work, look almost on the line. On the contrary, the essence of management in the enterprise lies in the details of the simple things to do. A hurried search for safe key action is very likely to lose your chief financial officer for promotion opportunities.
company's management, in fact, need not be difficult things to do 90 %---- example, to optimize the management of the core process, change the company's image in front of the local government, improve product quality, improve the working environment ... and manage to do is to do simple things each of 100 %----- example, everyone in the company's file according to certain rules are neatly stored up in the guard to set up a table outside the attendance officer, the extra meeting room chairs away, and television next Wednesday to talk about a good company to do the interview, the trial installation to the customer hands in the production of coffee plus a hole in the cover photo to the next ... ... and so true. If you can have all the details of the issues truthfully do, then you have the open promotion of the capital.
graduation when many people do not know what we should do, so on and said to myself: I will manage to do it! To do management? Ask yourself if the company assets were stolen, and all the staff morale is low, messy office, the company has broken elevator, no ink printer, the procurement plan cost overruns, and poor sales, and customer late ... you are willing to solve this problems and to start it from the small? Well, they want to re-consider whether to look too empty of management.
Seventh, do not behave negatively, just because you're doing is not your interest.
Obviously, a student, when do you like, we will pay200% of energy to create, but if it is boring affairs, we too lazy to ignore, it is best to have the means to cope with the past. However, 80 percent of the work you are doing is tedious and seemingly mechanical, if only for this purpose the performance of depressed, then you will be depressed longer. To know that your boss has enough trouble for this project, and you want him to see you face it?
learn to like his job, and focus on what they can learn their daily work up. So if you complain hard work, then the next you is hard to find work. Minimize the use of
think about the following positions, you will find a lot of work in life so you are not in good condition so that you do very interesting things:
1. speed the mouth of the toll road charges: day is faced with a small window, to send out a card, so to continue for several years.
2. the school cafeteria chef: always burn big row and chicken. Burn year.
3. Writers: turnaround period to come, I was inspired by birth, two weeks had eaten breakfast.
4. surgeons: just fell asleep, immediately asked me to do a three-hour surgery. So that at least once a week.
5. Salesroom Sales: products harder to sell, to work 8:00 to sitting at the door, a man sat down at 6 pm today, no one person, and yesterday.
6. Bus driver: I do not drive your command. I opened this route for three years.
7. pet store clerk: doing good business, but also over a long time ago listening to the calls of 20 dogs a day, listening to one year.
8.'s staff: two at night after work, still 8:00 to go to work the next day. The key is on the road but also one hour. This has been a month.
then think that they are not contact this job only a month or just did not encounter a few difficulties, this time complaining the loudest.
do not think to choose an interesting job, because there is no kind of work there. No single Try to ask themselves the most interest in it. self exploration.
eighth, never to improve the ability to work only on their faith in the corporate training
; people do not go through a training on reborn. In contrast, group training school to what is often the most irrelevant information. Like burning Da Guocai as canteen, did not you always want to eat the food the most, because it is easy, and not easy to offend people.
many students selected the company is serious about training there, this shows you not only do not know what to do in this company, you do not even know how to learn these skills.
my perception is that if you do not know how to learn the knowledge you want, do not know what you want knowledge, you will only make two kinds of behavior: 1. Waiting for someone to teach you, and wait for others to find you do not know where. 2 ready-made answers and find a copy. Expect corporate training people on the great probability is the first person (not rule out the rare truly outstanding corporate training)
many students have this habit of thinking:
because the company's How much training can end up much the extent of
and because, at this level, I want to achieve exactly the
so I tried this company for
Because I entered the company
it would lead to I reached the desired level.
we participate in training and achieve the desired effect is very naive paintings on the equal sign. In fact, tend to group training on the information obtained is the least practical value. Lectures alone are not always rely on the teacher to the same thing to all people, you will get more than others. More thoughts on the observation and reflection on their own needs, to find the problem through observation and practice the answer is the real knowledge.
So, just to work and what will not, do not think that is normal, because the company has not trained it! So after I trained, I will all the. If you are still waiting for others to be ignorant of your ignorance and poor knowledge of your charity, you will pay for your ignorance more intelligence.
Ninth, do not shirk responsibility
shirk responsibility is to fear conditioning. Do not think that others do not see this.
elementary school I remember one thing. I have a job does not bring the teacher to reprimand me, saying: how do you always work without?
I said: It is not. . . . When I was about to hum and haw when the teacher said: what is not? Bring you yet?
I said: no
teacher said: is not that there is no band! What is not! Is!
then I discovered that I was just afraid of responsibility and the conditioned reflex like say a of people with
fact that many people face work, too, when the higher questioned, it is very conditioned reflex action on to make the shift, but this kind of action, the next is often weak excuse, and some very rough excuse. This will make your boss feel this is very difficult to communicate, and very real.
another case, that is, no matter what the circumstances, I blame a person, he always stressed that objective. In fact, this is the most typical characteristics of students. This shows that he is too vulnerable to the impact of other things and subject to their decisions. If you and your boss will appear between the following types of dialogue, think about what is required to change your way of doing things.
A: Why have not yet been reported to the vice president to see you!
B: I just c in print, I'm waiting for him to end, and now he is probably okay, I'll see
B: there is something you want to modify
B: b also take things to the vice president I wait for him because
B: a report he said I do not have to look vice president (a colleague is a sibling of B)
B: Oh, do not know the vice president in the not, his door closed.
B: d he asked me to help him print the file! Blame him! (D is a sibling of B colleagues)
B: I suddenly can not find the cup, and looking for the cup.
responsible people do not want the negative is that he will doubt his loyalty to the boss because the boss gave him the command often because of a small things have been put on hold or discount perform, instead of by others, changes in consciousness.
Tenth, do not say to yourself
1. do not consider themselves more aloof
2. Do not continue to be student standards themselves
3. Do not feel inferior
4. Do not wait for others to care
5. Do not put this As a self-comforting excuse mistakes
6. Do not forget to figure out how to their treatment of the company how much more sophisticated, do not volunteer.
character is the foundation to handle interpersonal relationships, but also to ensure the quality of key relationships. In addition, interpersonal skills is particularly important. Some good things will make people appreciate life, and some people may be thankless, but to help others, not only not appreciated and rewarded, and also people feel hate. The same product the same price to sell to the same customer, some sales may be violently thrown out, the clerk might sign some big orders, and even the customer as a guest.
interpersonal skills is a very complex topic, confined space, where only my personal experience with some simple list, omissions inevitable.
1. give encouragement and praise others, avoid criticizing, blaming and complaining, do not force others to admit.
2. to learn to listen. Do not talk too much, try to let other people say.
3. If you want to join someone else's conversation, first find out what others are saying.
4. keep talking until neutral and objective. Indicate their tendency to figure out the other side before the first real trend.
5. pay attention to each other's social habits and proper to be imitated.
6. Do not interrupt, correct, add other people's conversations.
7. others have difficulty, take the initiative to help support and encourage.
8. not because the other family and friends and not pay attention to etiquette.
9. as much as possible about other people want, to teach him how to get what he wants.
10. always treat people with a smile.
11. to do a sense of humor. But when the jokes do not only care about their smile.
12. do a detachment vulgar.
13. as much as possible when speaking with others looked at each other's eyes, whether you are talking or listening.
14.'re starting to try to change the subject.
15. to learn to listen to each other overtones. By implication to have to learn to express themselves politely.
16. call others to notice.
17. Do not work or others may be busy when the rest of the phone in the past. Unless it is very urgent matter.
18. to call when someone first asked whether the other party to facilitate the call.
19. one thing to have two people know it is no longer a secret.
20. you say that any person in the back sooner or later ill have passed this person's ears.
21. Do not say harsh words.
22. remember the names of others. Develop occasionally look Mingpian Bu, phone habits.
23. try to contact with the people you hate.
24. must respect each other's privacy, whether friend or husband and wife.
25. a lot of people together, and when you talk to someone with one of them, please do not ignore the existence of other people.
26. to dare to admit.
27. attitude of humility, everyone around the face.
28. to give people sympathy and understanding.
29. as much as possible with the
30. Do not make promises. Commitment to things as much as possible must be done
[with] life skills cultivation fifteen strokes, may also make you realize when the leader
1, to use my mind to speak, to do things cautious. So many useless, just a mouth speaker only, usually must pay attention to supervision, control knobs and FM sound control switch, or give yourself a lot of trouble. Speech do not just momentary gratification, lip service, that people give you is to enjoy the smiles, the endless pit of the stomach to dig out all speak the words of the child, the results thoroughly and let people find out the real situation. Also steal your smile.
2, failing to do not jump to conclusions, even with the answer should be so, there may be a better solution, different viewpoints have different answers, we must learn transposition of thinking, especially in times of trouble, be sure to learn to wait, lean against, a lot of time not only to resolve the trouble, says no good luck came.
3, of the villain must be patient, take a step backward, it is not their own space to give them, let them revel it as the joy of spring-like. As the saying goes large measure of the NPC, not the mundane in my heart, rat stomach Intestinal villain, a villain on the other with the mess in trouble, the top under the sun a few bad people untouchables. Until now I thought a better way to defeat the villain, do not know at arm's length is feasible.
4, there is no reason in this world of love, there is no reason to hate, do not comment on any person, be aware of it. The so-called coffin of truth than simply a rush. No one has come to define good theoretical basis and the bad guys, in fact, interest in the issue.
5, only that part of the money spent is the real part of your wealth, you are home bound million consistent, when students want to eat, want to wear, both eyes closed, You know who the rest of the money spent strange, Yuan Buyuan. There are those who live frugally corrupt officials, senior officials do not do good, the results of returning to poverty due to corruption, it did not cost a penny to catch also confiscated personal property, not miserable miserable. Do not greed that ill-gotten gains, you may sometimes strapped economy, if you really lack of money, and you have the skills, then you went to the If you have any need of help, but also can visit the EPS released tasks.
6, doing things must first establish the moral bottom line, the thief is also clear that some things must not steal. So things must absolutely do do, adding insult to injury is absolutely not to do things, to others so that the escape route is equivalent to their own forward.
7, for those who often find trouble even bully your people, able to be tolerated, no need to make life difficult time with Mangfu, but must give him save the new enemies old grudges accumulated, justice and truth belong to you, then aimed at the opportunity he must complete a lesson in the law within the jurisdiction, the entire Kill, Kill the beat, so kid always remember: In addition to your father, no one used to you these foul problems.
8, easy to hide the gun, stab in the back hard against the villain behind the calculation you will never disappear, this is the Chinese characteristics, the villain is not to offend, the same villain is unforgivable, it is the same Jesus Christ The truth, after all villains determined to small side, the treatment of such a person to steady Accurate, you can pretend nothing happened, peace and harmony christian louboutin discount, all is well, and then to one out at large, stealing, fire with fire, so that kid know : villain is not anyone can do, good people have a level difficult to do the same villain.
9, to treat people who love you must respect and love you for a reason, do not ask why, receiving care at the same time use the double return, but do not deceive other people's feelings, love is the most precious wealth, this is your money does not come with wealth. Do not ring true to the cause of the impact of the family, not to let a family dispute influence career. Do not cost effective, family and career are affected, or even loss. A man to carry the good things, we should swallow tears. Remember: people neglect to pay the emotional equivalent to contempt for themselves, Wanwusangzhi, playing people were killed German, love is a virtue.
10, behind the praise of your people, know to be treasured in my heart, there is little water. Called flattering praise you face to face, and then bluntly called curries favor with some, you can laugh it off, on when nothing happened, you may soon have to ask for, publicly praise you for the kind of person who would neglect incredible, maybe you turned around, poke it with your finger, grasp the principle: every person more derogatory own, less praise others, except when pre-election appraised.
11, some people used to account for your small cheap, villain small intestines, large NPC metrics, have the opportunity to pit him a big, out of a large blood, let him also remember: the world is simply no free lunch , how cheap white pick you make. Small favors save more is a big hole if they accept must find opportunities to return, line spring look Xia Yu, pay is to harvest, in fact, a simple relationship between the seed and fruit. Do not let the innocent to harm, and remember: Life is like a play, are looking for a balance of interests, only the balance of the game possible to play down.
12, suffering from mental illness is not liable, and can have no reason to bite you, so mad-class people to deal at arm's length, remain between, do not communicate, step back, brighter, I believe is a crazy personality, though not worthy of respect, but the existence of its own truth, and ultimately the food chain ring.
13, a life of tourists do it, after all as long as with people, people with morals, far away from non-point, by the family closer, there will be some peace of mind, with the pleasant. Optimistic attitude from tolerance, from the generous, from the understanding, from the madding crowd. Bad mood is suffering insomnia, out, in fact, reality is not as bad as you think life has peaks and troughs, there is no smooth sailing in life, how to Deng Xiaoping, ups and downs, the last is not everything he says goes.
14, the so-called good and evil fate is nothing more than only two, cherish the good, and do not absolutely exclude evil, I believe that is the edge of the right pass, nearly 60 million people around the world, who do not run into easy, so the encounter bad pratyaya, but also try to tolerance radii 420 top silver, to the other party a chance, can not come to negate.
15, interaction with others to position itself, can not think of myself as old people, old and take themselves as leaders, think of myself as old and rich, always assume that he is My Lover, always feel good about themselves, even if really there as a small, results are striking, but also cautious, open-minded, to knowing too much, in fact, the ultimate outcome is the same, but you look at their own complex, to be saying: do not give yourself too seriously < / p>
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